We had a conversation today about the parenting "opportunities" we are facing each and every day now, with each of our children. We reminded ourselves how crucial it is that we remain strong as "parents" and adults, ourselves, but not to allow our reactions to lash out directly from our feelings or emotions of the moment. Well, Todd was actually reminding ME of this, in a very constructive way :) Then I realized something amazing. Since we started this blog, God has not only continued to provide important challenges each day, through my oh-so-normal teenagers, but He has humbled me, as I've blown many of these opportunities to parent effectively.
After the heated exchanges, the words I wish I could take back, the unacceptable behavior I allow them to get away with. . .Todd reminded me, during this "beating myself up" period, that it's never too late to do it right the next time. Easier said than done, though. I immediately wonder if I'm capable of being that calm and focused adult, while dealing with my own issues of frustration, hurt feelings, and anger. I guess recognition of an unhealthy pattern, like any other, is always a good start. I ask myself, how have I done it right in the past? Lots of prayer, to start. And when in the moment, deep breaths of calming silence. . .and more prayer. . .before reacting. Sticking to our principles and our guns because we know it's the right thing to do. It's not easy sometimes, is it? But what kind of fruit does it bear?
"Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing."
-Proverbs 12:18
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